Love me, love my dog

Pretty much what I had to tell my sister tonight.

I was telling her about the dog we’ve adopted…a stray which is part pitbull.

Very sweet, very smart, very protective dog.

But my sister told me that I would have to ‘lock up the dog’ if she and her family (four kids) were to come over.

I told her I wouldn’t do it. The dogs’ (we have three now) domain is the fenced-in backyard. I’m not locking the dogs up when there’s a front yard, a side yard, and 40 acres of damn woods behind us for her little preciouses to play in.

I’m not anti-kid. But I’m not giving in to paranoia, either. If you don’t like my dogs, don’t come over. I don’t force my dogs on anyone, and neither do I make people go into the backyard to make friends with them either. Actually, I don’t want the dogs to be too friendly. I want them to be protective.

My sister hasn’t forgiven my father for a similar incident many years ago. He, too, wouldn’t lock up his dog when she went for a visit. She felt trapped and angry (I had no problem with the dog, which was a Borzoi.) When she first told me about MY having to lock away MY dog, I even told her I was pulling ‘a Dad’ and refuse to lock up the animal which is minding its own business in its own yard. I don’t let my dogs wander the neighborhood. And there’s not a swing set or any kid stuff in the backyard to entice anyone to want to go there.

Some people just don’t get dog behavior. If you act scared, they’ll try to dominate you. It’s just doggy behavior. You have to understand how they’ll act around ‘their’ property and their food and with each other. Dogs are way, way easier to understand and predict than most people.

With that being said, the dogs won’t be in the house (where they only come when weather is bad), so she’ll just have to deal with it.

I think it means she won’t be coming over for Thanksgiving dinner. No great loss. I’m tired of having to deal with her and her husband’s insecurities which have created a great deal of problems for them lately. They’re big time on looking down on people who want handouts…but want and expect handouts themselves.

Okay, so dogs will look for handouts, too…but they’ll look all happy and wag their tails when you give them something. And if you tell them ‘wait’, they’ll sit and look at you with those big ol’ eyes that just make you melt. And then they’ll be grateful when they do get the ‘hand-out’.

Yep, dogs make the best family.

12 Responses to “Love me, love my dog”

  1. diamond dave Says:

    Woof! *wags tail*

  2. Jess Says:

    If it wasn’t dogs, it would be something else. People look for external excuses for their own problems.

  3. pam Says:

    Good for you! Your dogs are part of your family; she doesn’t like your family… there’s a solution for that! ;)

  4. Cheeze Says:

    Never really understood that mindset. “Here are all the things you need to do if you want me to come over.” Oh, really? You mean, that I might be so benificently blessed by your glowing presence?

    Or, maybe, I could interpret what your saying to mean that seeing me is only worth your time IF I…..

    So, yes, please, put even MORE conditions on our relationship. THAT’S how to make me feel special!

    Heh. Dogs indeed. The most unconditional love on the planet.

  5. Quality Weenie Says:

    Love me, Love my dog. That is the philosphy we live by here.

    When people come to visit they are given a verbal list of rules they must follow so they don’t make the dogs feel uncomfortable, or sit on them while they are under the covers.

    I love my dogs more then I do any of my family, friends run a close second to the dogs.

  6. Bou Says:

    It depends on the dog. You keep yours outside away from her kids. That’s fine. It’s still away from her kids.

    My brother in law had a dog that always bit at my kids. Nothing was ever done to prevent it from happening. I was literally constantly running interference. To this day I still regret that I didn’t put my foot down and say, “I’m not coming over until I know the dogs are locked up… away from my kids.” My kids grew up damaged and afraid of dogs. One time my kids were at church with a friend. My eldest was in 6th grade. Someone had a puppy golden retriever and the puppy ran up all happy. How do you not get excited to see a puppy like that? My 12 year old, reacted as he’d had to react all those years. He tried to hide. He literally jumped in bushes to get away from the dog. His friend was laughing saying, “Its… a PUPPY!” But the damage had been done.

    When their dog died, we were so happy. My brother in law and his wife were devastated, but never once did we say we were sorry. That was the nastiest dog and never once did they care about my kids.

    And I’ve become very intolerant of my inlaws now. I’ve permanently written them off.

    That’s not the case you’re talking about, but I’m telling you, there are some real a$$holes out there that own dogs.

  7. Mrs. Who Says:

    Dave: Woof back at ya!!!

    Jess: You’ve just described my sister and her husband…sheesh, grow up already!

    Pam: Yep…and I think she’s definitely decided to NOT come over for Thanksgiving, lol!

    Cheeze: And because one of her kids is allergic to dogs, I guess I’m not supposed to have any. *sigh*

    QW: Yes, indeed. The dogs ARE part of the household so yes, they do get treated with respect, and others must understand that.

    Bou: I wouldn’t allow a dog to jump on or scare children, or especially bite at them (or anyone unless they were provoked). That’s a dog that is not being controlled, and that’s an unsafe dog. I’m so sorry your boys had to go through that…it was the idiot in-laws’ fault, not theirs.

  8. Bou Says:

    You should see their kids…

  9. Mr. Bingley Says:

    The more I know about people the more I love my dog.

  10. Da Goddess Says:

    We had Thanksgiving over at my lil sister’s house. She has one medium sized dog and one horse…er, horse sized dog. The smaller dog (Hilo) tends to not like my other sister’s husband so she was prepared to keep the dogs outside if Hilo was barking and unpleasant in any way toward “Uncle D”. Then inspiration struck: have the dogs outside when Uncle D arrived. We’d then place Uncle D on the sofa, seated, with food in his hand (a bribe is a good thing), and then we’d let the dogs in. Worked like a charm! Hilo decided she liked D, never once growled or barked, and the rest of the day was without incident (beyond their major plumbing disaster prior to our arrival).

    The thing is, my bro-in-law never demanded the dogs be kept outside. He was willing to be barked and growled at if that’s how things went. He was just happy not to have Thanksgiving at his house for a change. But in the end it was just fine because we threw on our thinking caps and came up with a solution that totally worked.

    I dare say your sister should offer to have Thanksgiving at HER place if she really doesn’t want her precious children exposed to lovely animals (for whatever reasons…allergies or not).

  11. Paula Says:

    I can’t believe what I’m hearing. I have a beautiful sweet yorkiepoo, I take her everywhere I go (she even has a stroller for going in stores and walking on hot days), and she sleeps wih me and my husband every night, but if my daughter asked me to I would put my Grand Child first. You never know what a dog might do. I’ve seen many children bit by dogs who “are very friendly” and “don’t bite”. Including my self, I was almost killed by a very loved “My dog won’t bite” Saint Bernand. My daughter was also bitten by a “very friendly, doesn’t bite” dog. Your dog is a part of the family, but your sister, nieces and nephews are famly, One bite lasts a lifetime, believe me. But your dogs up for a while, it won’t hurt them, especially a new adult, who has a unknown past.

  12. Paula Says:

    I can’t believe what I’m hearing. I have a beautiful sweet yorkiepoo, I take her everywhere I go (she even has a stroller for going in stores and walking on hot days), and she sleeps wih me and my husband every night, but if my daughter asked me to I would put my Grand Child first. You never know what a dog might do. I’ve seen many children bit by dogs who “are very friendly” and “don’t bite”. Including my self, I was almost killed by a very loved “My dog won’t bite” Saint Bernand. My daughter was also bitten by a “very friendly, doesn’t bite” dog. Your dog is a part of the family, but your sister, nieces and nephews are famly, One bite lasts a lifetime, believe me. But your dogs up for a while, it won’t hurt them, especially a new adult dog, who has a unknown past.

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