Calling from Arkham

Several years ago when I got a new cell phone, I gave my old one to my mother and added her to my phone plan. My stepdad had been having a lot of health problems, and they’d be at the hospital and no one would know. I gave her the phone so she could call people, and for her own safety driving around. She doesn’t like putting gas in her car and has run out several times. So, I thought I was doing a helpful thing.

Someone please tell me why I did this. You know, the whole ‘no good deed goes unpunished’ thing??? Yeah…

First, the email from her today: Can you check the voice mail for my number or tell me how to find it. It starts with the area code of 901 but when he returned the call he used a phone with 251 and I knew it wasn’t you or Joe. He buys old records and I have some 78′s in a cabinet in the bedroom that I would like to get rid of. I listened to the voice mail thinking it would be someone I didn’t know so I didn’t have anything to write down the phone number. Thank you. Love, Mom

She doesn’t know how to go back and check voicemail. She doesn’t know how she found it before. She doesn’t know how to scroll through previous numbers. When I told her to hit ‘menu’ to find voicemail, she says all she gets is a music note and a mall link.

Mom wanted me to access her voicemail, because she knows she didn’t set it up. I told her I’d have to call the number and see if I knew the access code, and not to answer the phone when I called it. She then wanted to know why she shouldn’t answer the phone. Doesn’t matter…turns out I didn’t know the access code, because I’m willing to guess I set it up with her and she gave me a code to enter.

There’s no use trying to talk her through it over the phone. She has no logical mind. No, let me repeat that, she REFUSES to have a logical mind. The woman is smart and well-educated. She completes the NYTimes crossword puzzle. But she was reared in an era where women could just simper and a man would rush up to do her bidding. If she doesn’t want to do something, she won’t. She’ll giggle and giggle when you show her how easy it is to do something, and then she’ll giggle some more when she still can’t do it. Or else she get mad and start slamming things. *sigh*

I’ll be over her way tomorrow, and I’ll see if I can fix it. Or at least call the provider and get a new password for her voicemail. We just can’t talk technology over the phone…too much frustration.

2 Responses to “Calling from Arkham”

  1. pam Says:

    Or, she’s refusing to do it because it will result in a visit from you? My Mom used to do things like that… she passed in 2005 and I sometimes still anticipate calls from her needing me to do mundane things… ;)

  2. Mrs. Who Says:

    No, she didn’t know I was coming. I get over there at least once a week these days…don’t want to wait for a time when I *wished* that I had stopped by.