Anno Domini 2014

A new year begins. And it’s time to be looking forward.

I wrote a letter to Goob and Buck:

Dear Goob and Buck,
We wish you both the best in the paths you’ve chosen. Should times really get difficult, you know you can turn to us.
Y’all had a really difficult childhood…those events cannot be erased, no matter how hard I wish they could be. But those events have affected the way you will make the choices in your life…I just pray that as you make those choices, it will bring the rewards and peace that you crave.
In a strange way, y’all have given Dad and me a gift…the gift of starting over. May you be granted that gift also.
May God bless you and keep you safe.

Yes, we’re starting over in many ways. When BR and I got married, we definitely did the ‘married with children’ part. And if you’ve read this blog long enough, you know the horrible roller coaster ride we’ve experienced since then.

But BR and I are finally getting around to the part most people experience at the beginning of their marriage…just being together as a couple.

It’s nice. It’s quiet. It’s peaceful.

I could really get to liking this!

6 Responses to “Anno Domini 2014”

  1. diamond dave Says:

    Pretty much the same thing we’ve had to say to a few of our children at one time. Always, always, always leave a door open somewhere for reconciliation (provided you don’t compromise the safety of your family, of course). The harsh realities of life without a safety net can work wonders upon the hardest and most stubborn of hearts. If/when they return, welcome them with loving arms and never with I-told-you-so’s. And meanwhile use the newfound peace in your home as a time to heal yourself emotionally and spiritually. I sure did.

  2. Jess Says:

    Relish your times of solitude and peace. They’re when the heart mends, the mind clears and your soul finds comfort.

  3. Ladybug Crossing Says:

    We have found that since ours are both in college and virtually never home, that we enjoy our time together — even if it’s just watching TV, playing scrabble, or surfing the web. Tomorrow we are headed out to do a little shopping. We are looking forward to just bumbling around and being together — and honestly, we are ok with that. :)
    Enjoy your time. Enjoy each other.
    Enjoy whatever makes you happy — it’s your turn now.

  4. Rita Says:

    Oddly enough, our issues with the girls began AFTER they moved out. That’s what made no sense for us. It was of they were putting through constant tests. And it HURT. For several years I looked for an answer and I finally came to the realization there was no good answer. I took their dad even longer.

    As I said, things have been normal for about three years now. Very normal. It feels so great. I no longer have to weigh every single word out of my mouth, now it’s just normal conversations like regular people now.

    Someday Mrs. Who. Someday, I wish the same for you. At least you’ve made it to the peaceful time at home. I’m sure there will still be worries, but at least there can now be a refuge.

  5. Mrs. Who Says:

    DD: I’ll have to learn to bite my tongue about the ‘I told you so’s, lol!

    Jess: Yes, that comfort is so needed.

    LBC: It is nice just ‘being’ with my husband now, instead of walking on eggshells.

    Rita: Yes, there are still worries…but I’m letting their problems be their problems. We’re all happier that way. Well, maybe they’re not happier, but they’re less angry, anyway.

  6. pam Says:

    Arthur and I enjoy it being just us. It’s better for the marriage, obviously, when the source of strife is out of the house. Not that we don’t love the girls… but their life is theirs to lead, not ours. Thankfully. ;)

    Peace! What a concept!

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