The Yellow Brick Road to Nowhere
The horrific killings in California are dominating the news. It seems that Elliot Rodger’s family sought help in the preceding weeks, but to no avail.
In a way, we’ve been there, too. Seeking help for a loved one, but help couldn’t be found. At first, I thought it was because we didn’t have vast sums of money for treatment. But if that young man’s wealthy family couldn’t get help for him, how could we expect to find any?
When you know a loved one is troubled, you do anything you can to help them, both for their sakes and for possible future victims. In our case, we were told by the cops there was no facility for treatment unless we wanted him to come out ‘worse than he was when he went in’.
What is wrong with our society when those most in need of help can’t get it? And then when there is a horrific outcome involving guns, people blame the guns??? It’s not the guns, folks, it’s our society!!!! A society that encourages overt sexuality and acceptance of all its forms, even when it’s not a mentally healthy practice. A society in which those in desperate need of help are explained away as ‘boys being boys’, or ‘he had a tough childhood’ or ‘he was a member of the Tea Party’. A society in which the breakdown of the family has had a corresponding increase in these awful behaviors.
There is no accountability anymore. We have a president who is so blasé about his responsibilities that he doesn’t get mad until he hears about it ‘in the news’. By then it’s too damn late. Our society as a whole echoes this ignorant response to our problems.
Acceptance of self has trumped acceptance of personal responsibility. If it feels good, it’s your right to do it, and screw anyone else. If someone else’s beliefs make you feel less than a person, it’s the other person’s fault. Elliot Rodger is the epitome of that mantra. That’s what caused the trouble for our family member.
And it’s destroying all of us.